You can transform your marriage WITHOUT changing your husband.
Let me put it this way, if you look for evidence that your husband is horrible you will find it.
If you look for evidence that your husband is wonderful then you will find that instead.
It sounds simple, but it’s not always easy to even WANT find the good, especially if things have been going downhill for a while.
Stop the drama, stop playing the victim, stop trying to control your husband.